In many parts of the world, a quarter to half of all babies are born by cesarean. Too often women who birth by cesarean feel unprepared, frightened or left with a sense that they didn’t actually give birth. As a doula, educator and fellow parent, I help couples who might birth by cesarean ready themselves for the healthiest birth and recovery possible.
A female doctor with a shaven head and beautiful eyes stood between Lily’s legs, studying the monitor. We all heard the slow thudding. In an even tone, a Mary Poppins-like midwife said, “Get peds.” A pediatrician and a gaggle of pediatric residents entered the room as if they’d been standing at the door waiting for an invitation. The doctor picked up the vacuum and quietly announced that the time had come to use extra force. “The baby is so close,” she told us as she readied her equipment.
It was my daughter’s third birthday and this was her question that started our day. Then, as we walked to nursery school, she asked, “When Halloween goes, where does it go?” I’m still working on an explanation for the spiraling movement of time, and the effort is helping me understand why my daughter talks so often about what she will do when she is a baby again. If Halloween will return next year, why not her babyhood, too?
I am hiring a birth professional for the care I want. I hope I give birth at home, but I understand that there is a continuum of where I might give birth, home or hospital. What matters to me is that I will have my midwife with me. I think of it more as hiring a person I trust than planning a birth in my home
A wonderful article highlighting the importance of caring for the umbilical cord at the proper time.
This article is wonderful argument about the importance of not disrupting the first moments after birth, rather allowing the mother to meet her new baby in her own way and on her own time.